I had a meeting with someone I was planning to work with on projects. He was detained and didn’t get to the meeting on time. After we finished discussing the idea, he again apologized for being late, and I told him that I would have to be perfect in order to get upset about it. That comment has continued to run through my mind ever since. I want it to be true all the time, but I know I don’t hold to it like I should.
It’s almost like we think that we have an allowance of times we can get upset without it being held against us. The problem with that is, we fail to consider the reason we get upset during those times. In our eyes, we have been wronged somehow, so we want people to know about it. Nothing wrong with that, right? Except, the root cause of that mindset is pride. Not the, “I am content with what I did,” pride, but the, “I’m better than other people and they should conform to my feelings,” pride.
I was reminded about this whole mental conversation yesterday during a sermon. The passage included the woman caught in adultery and how Jesus said the man without sin could throw the first stone. In other words, they would have to be perfect in order to condemn her like they were wanting to.
Now, Jesus didn’t wink at her sin. He told her just a few verses later to not sin anymore. What He was saying is don’t be in an all fire hurry to punish people, especially when holding onto a holier-than-thou attitude.
There are going to be times that people do things I don’t like. It’s my choice whether I get upset or not. When that choice arises, I need to make sure that my decision is not made to satisfy my pride.