Several years ago, I went to a Sunday School workshop. I don’t remember too much about what was said, but one saying does make frequent appearances in my daydreaming. People are not looking for friendly people, they are looking for friends.

I have just finished a round of monologuing, which I do when I’m working through a topic I want to or will talk about. This particular topic was a Bible study on friend(ship), so that saying popped up again. How often do I/we act friendly, and call it being a friend?

When I think of friendliness, I gravitate to small talk, “What about that weather,” and questions of that nature. Something to show you want to engage the other person.

*Let me take a short break to say that I personally stink at small talk. I just can’t seem to master the art of saying something meaningful to start a conversation. That might have to do with the fact that I am not much of a conversationalist anyway.*

Thinking about that, is that what people in general pass off as a friendship? I don’t have a full answer for that, but I would say yes at this point.